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PostSubject: Read this: Being a DAD at 13???   Tue Feb 17, 2009 12:41 am

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PostSubject: Re: Read this: Being a DAD at 13???   Tue Feb 17, 2009 12:43 am

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like
eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle
Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.
“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I
was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were
worried how people would react.

“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”

Alfie's story, broken exclusively by The Sun today has sparked a huge
political storm with Tory leader David Cameron saying: "When I saw
these pictures this morning, I just thought how worrying that in
Britain today children are having children.

hope that somehow these children grow up into responsible parents but
the truth is parenthood is just not something they should be thinking
about right now."

PM Gordon Brown refused to
comment directly on the story but said it was important that the
Government did all it could to prevent teenage pregnancies.

Alfie’s dad Dennis yesterday told how the lad does not really
understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a
devoted and responsible father.

He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at
home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”

Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.
They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.

But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum
Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.
Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous
after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”

Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her
GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The
doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do
a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started
crying and didn’t know what to do.

“He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.
didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really
think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think
your parents will kill you.”

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by
their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She
said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will
be good loving parents.

“I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.
“I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are
living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five
brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on
benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola,
43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.
Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his
head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the
baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad
will help.

“When you mention money his eyes
look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have
no idea what lies ahead.”

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.”
Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when
he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first
time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the
complications that could come.

“I will talk to
him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s
too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”

Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I
wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already
so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will
pull together and get through.

“She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE,
said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their
child into the world.

“At the same time this
is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows
the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”

Today Sussex Police and the local council's children services said they
have investigated the case and pledged continued support for the young

Britain’s youngest known father is
Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door,
15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998.
They split six months later.
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PostSubject: Re: Read this: Being a DAD at 13???   Tue Feb 17, 2009 5:05 am

Boy, 13, 'may not be baby's father'

Baby-faced Alfie Patten may not be a father at 13 after all amid allegations that the mother has had several other sexual partners, it was reported.

The case of Alfie - who was just 12 when the baby was conceived - has already provoked a fierce political debate over the high rate of teenage pregnancies in the UK and the sexualisation of children.
But two other teenagers believe they may have fathered six-day old Maisie, whose mother Chantelle Steadman is herself just 15.
Richard Goodsell, 16, told the News of the World that he also shared a bed with the teenager at her home in Eastbourne, East Sussex, at around the time she became pregnant.
Richard, a trainee chef, said: "I know I could be the father. Everyone thinks I am. My friends all tell me that the baby has my eyes - even my mum thinks so. Even Chantelle's mum asked me if I was the father. If I am the father, I have the right to know."
Richard, who told the paper he slept with Chantelle with the consent of her parents and without using any contraception, said he plans to demand a DNA test is carried out to find out the truth.
Chantelle lives with her mother, Penny, and father, Steve, in a council house on the Old Town estate.
Tyler Barker, 14, also told the paper he could have fathered Maisie, born at the Eastbourne District General Hospital last week. He said he slept with Chantelle around nine months ago, again in her own bed. Realising the gravity of the situation, he added: "I hope it's not me."
Both boys and their parents are reported to have made sworn statements in front of a solicitor detailing their encounters with Chantelle.
The situation has provoked outrage from politicians and charity workers who said it exemplified the "complete collapse" of parts of society. Former Tory leader Iain Duncan Smith, who runs the Centre for Social Justice think tank, said the birth highlighted another case of "broken Britain" where "anything goes".
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